Deathbed - There is nothing sadder than a life filled with "what ifs".

Deathbed – There is nothing sadder than a life filled with “what ifs”.

We all need to have an idea, an anchor of a thought that brings clarity to us in our day-to-day lives. You know, that go-to thought that puts everything into perspective. Well, here is mine:

Imagine that I am on my deathbed. There is very little time left for me in this mortal body. I use these last few minutes or hours to reflect on and take stock of my life. It’s kind of like life flashing before your eyes, but more slowly, more introspectively.

I spent a lot of time at work, earning a crust and ensuring we had ‘nice things. I sacrificed a lot for these material trinkets, time with the ones I love, time doing what gave me joy, and time just living and experiencing life. But what do they matter now? They don’t. Trinkets and glitter come and go and I don’t even remember most of it, what a waste of time.


And then there are the mistakes, the things I have tried and failed at: Well, in the big scheme of things, I learned valuable lessons from all of those mistakes and errors, and I grew as a person. And, at least I experienced life in all of its colourfulness. What consequence are these failures now? None – I survived, I grew, I learned and I experienced. That’s it. 

Then come the most troubling thoughts, they are the regrets and the ‘WHAT IFs?’. The regret of NOT having done a thing, the “WHAT IF’ I had done that thing, and the what COULD HAVE been. The agony of NOT doing, of NOT knowing, and of now having NO time, this is my greatest fear.

So I now always ask myself one question before I try anything, and that question is, “What’s the worst that could happen?”. If it is anything less than losing my life, seriously injuring myself, or endangering my family, I’ll give it a go. Because you see, I have realised that life is for living. And the only way of living, for me, is living regret-free and free of the fear of regret.

“There is nothing sadder than a life filled with “what ifs”.

Failures weigh ounces, regrets weigh tonnes

“Failures weigh ounces, regrets weigh tonnes”.

Further reading and references:

Jim Rohn – Motivational Speaker

Dr Robert Anthony – Beyond Positive Thinking

The Secret – Rhonda Byrne


I was 52 years old before I learned my most important life lessons: Life can be so much easier than we choose to make it. My life is in my hands – it is what I make of it. Life can be as happy, loving, joyous, fulfilling and downright amazing as I choose it to be. The Universe loves me and wants me to be happy, prosperous, fulfilled. Things will always turn out for the best in the end. Have faith, let things go, ask and trust in the Universe. I have a choice! I have always had a choice! And I have more power and opportunity than I ever realised!

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